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Saturday, November 8, 2008

CA Prop 8 Opinion

Dad Here - 


Friends,

A few of my thoughts on the events of the past week surrounding Proposition 8 in California.

So let me make sure I understand what's going on... All those who are upset with Prop 8 passing in California have decided that the best thing to do is to pick on the Mormons?  Hmmmm, so one marginalized group decides that the best way to go and vent their outrage is to do it against another marginalized group in society?  Unbelievable.

I think it's important to remember that less than 2% of the state of California is LDS and nearly 31% is Roman Catholic; both faiths opposed the proposition.  Furthermore, nearly all Evangelical Faiths opposed the proposition, but let's get down to the facts.  Exit Polls are difficult monsters to extrapolate data from, but according to Exit Polls there were two decisive differences in Prop 8's passage.

First, 70% of black voters supported it.  There were approximately 10,357,002 votes cast on Prop 8.  The winning margin was 492,830 votes.  Blacks made up close to 10% of the electorate, so that would mean there were close to 1,035,700 votes cast by black voters.  That right there provided a difference of nearly 414,820 votes.  If math is correct, that is 84% of the winning margin.  The Washington Post stated that a majority of Hispanic voters also supported Proposition 8.

Second, another group that strongly supported Prop 8 appears to be married people with children under the age of 18.  Married people comprised nearly 62% of the vote and voted 60-40 in favor of Prop 8.  People with children under the age of 18 were 40% of the electorate and voted 64-36 n favor.  31% identified themselves as "Married with Children" (don't know if they were minor children) and they voted 68-32 in support.

If protestors want to vent their rage and spew their vitriol maybe they should go over to the local black church and call them "bigots."  Or, better yet, go over to a local gathering of Hispanic mothers and chant, "Shame on you!"  But then again, that wouldn't be very politically correct, would it?  I mean, who's going to stick up for the Mormons?  Oh yea I forgot, all those out of state Mormon Bigots that are so powerful that they put Mitt Romney into the White House this year, of course!

This behavior is shameless and sickening.  I understand if they are frustrated, for I would be frustrated if by using my democratic right my proposition hadn't passed (twice), but scapegoating Mormons simply because it is MORE politically correct to single them out over any other group is disgraceful.  More could be said on getting out the vote, the real definition of tax exempt status, accountability, the millions of dollars not spent by Hollywood and celebrities, the right of citizens, democracy and how we voice opinions; but at the end of the day it really comes down to the following:  Situational tolerance, as demonstrated by opponents to Prop 8, is the worst kind.  In fact, it's called something that most opponents of Prop 8 vehemently oppose... discrimination.

works cited:

http://www.cnn.com/ELECTION/2008/results/polls/#val=CA101p2

http:/www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/11/06/AR2008110603880.html


IMPORTANT NOTE:  many thoughts above have been taken from multiple sources to express my personal opinions and frustrations.  

Getting To Know You

I've been tagged by many friends lately so I decided to use this one so you can get to know me a little better.

1. What time did you get up this morning? 7:30, This is MAJOR sleeping in for me.
2. Diamonds or pearls?  Diamonds for sure
3. What was the last film you saw @ the cinema? Passengers
4. What do you usually have for breakfast? Yogurt with berries and granola
5. What is your favorite TV show?? Lost and The Office
6. What is your middle name? Marie
7. What foods do you dislike? Shellfish (Love fish, but nothing that came from a shell, weird huh?!?)
8. What is your favorite CD at the moment? I don't listen to music in the house, but we have XM radio in the car and with the girls it's ALWAYS on Radio Disney
9. What kind of car do you drive? GMC Yukon XL
10. Favorite Sandwich?  Peanut butter and honey on whole wheat (my favorite since childhood)
11. What characteristic do you despise? People who do not follow through on their word
12. Favorite item of clothing? Shorts (good thing I live in a place that I can wear them almost year round)
13. If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation: Where would you go ? Greece
14. Favorite brand of clothing? Toss up, Banana Republic and Ann Taylor Loft
15. What was the last thing you bought? A new outfit from Ann Taylor for my birthday
16. What was your most recent memorable day? Taking the girls to the movies yesterday to see Madagascar 2
17. Favorite sports to watch? Track and Field, no doubt 
18. Your birthday? October 30, 1974
19. Are you a morning or evening person? Definitely morning
20 What is your shoe size? 9
21. Pets? Chickens
22. What did you want to be when you were little?  A pizza maker at my local grocery store (how's that for ambition!)
23. Any new and exciting news you would like to share with everyone? GREAT medical bill news (I will post more later)
24. How do you feel today? Energized (mast be the sleeping in)
25. What is your favorite candy? Hard choice since I LOVE candy.  Non-chocolate = Hot Tamales and chocolate Cadbury DARK chocolate bar
26. What is your favorite flower? Tulip
27. What is the day on the calendar you're looking forward to? New Year's Day (2008 was a tough one for me and I am hoping 2009 is a bit easier)
28. What is your full name? Keisa Marie Ridgway
29. What are you listening to right now? Silence - only my typing
30. What was the last thing you ate? Yogurt with berries
31. Do you wish on stars? I sure do!
32. If you were a crayon, what color would you be? Yellow
33. How is the weather right now? Beautiful 76+ and sunny
34. Last person you spoke to on the phone? Marcus
35. favorite soft drink ? Fresca
36. favorite Restaurant? Mastro's Ocean Club
37. Hair Color? Mousy brown
38. What was your favorite toy as a child? Big Wheel
39. Summer or Winter? Summer, I love to swim and I don't mind the heat
40. Hugs or kisses? Kisses 
41. Chocolate or Vanilla? DARK chocolate - has to be dark
42. Coffee or Tea? I do not drink either, but I love a good hot cocoa in the winter 
43. When was the last time you cried? Last night before bed.  I was missing Eden
44. What is under your bed? Christmas gifts I am hiding - normally nothing, it's one of my fetishes
45. Salty or Sweet? Sweet
46. How many keys on your key ring? 4
47. How many years @ your current job? 8.5 - I started full-time and am now on-call
48. favorite day of the week? Friday 
49. How many towns have you lived in?  4 - Brigham City, UT, Wainesville, NC, Tempe and Mesa, AZ
50. Do you make friends easily? I think I do
ENJOY YOUR DAY!!!!!!

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Tricks and Treats

We had a super Halloween last Friday and thanks to daddy, we have tons of fun pictures.  It was extra warm that evening (about 90 degrees), but the girls handled their warm costumes well.  
I LOVE MY GIRLS!!!!!

Ainsley has to pose for every picture.

The girls preschool Halloween party.  Wearing costumes is so fun!

Emerson is ALWAYS clowning around!

Couldn't you just eat them up!  So cute and getting so grown up.

Grammy and Papa accompanied us around the neighborhood and the wagon came in very handy as they got more and more tired.

"Don't bother me, I have to decide which to eat next!"

"Look at all MY candy!"

They did quite a bit of candy inspecting.  Boy do I remember those days.

My little witch and fairy.  Technically, they would call themselves a "princess witch" and a "princess ballerina fairy".  Have to get that "P" word in somewhere :)

We had a fabulous Halloween full of way too many treats.  Both of the girls enjoyed trick-or-treating and Ainsley is now catching on that the faster you go from house to house, the more candy you can get.  She had poor little Emerson running door to door!  Needless to say, we were all beat by the time we got home.  Sadly though, both girls got a bout of the 24-hour stomach flu and kept Marcus and I up most of the night vomiting.  They have not touched their candy since, nor have they asked for even one piece.  Now I have to figure out what to do with all of this candy!


Wednesday, October 29, 2008

"We Remember Them"

HAPPY 8TH MONTHS to my little angel Eden.  


It's so hard to believe that Eden was born 8 months ago today.  A day filled with such happiness and sadness all in one for me.  We are quickly approaching the day (November 5th) when Eden will be in heaven longer than she was with us on earth.  To be honest, I am a little scared for that day to come and go.  I will celebrate my 34th birthday this week and what a year it has been for me.  A year full of so much sorrow, fear, pain and grief, yet a year when our miracle was born who will help to save our family.  As I think back over my 33rd year, I can't say it was my best, but I can say it was full of great blessings and numerous examples of the Lord's love for me and my family.  Here's hoping for a less eventful 34th year.  Heck, I am getting way too old for all this excitement!

Last Friday evening Phoenix Children's Hospital hosted their annual "We Remember Them" memorial service for all of the children that have passed away there.  Of course we were happy to attend and honor Eden.  Both sets of grandparents and my newlywed sister and her husband accompanied us as well.  I thought it was a very nice tribute to our children through song and words.  They also had a slideshow presentation of many of the children and of course that was so emotional for me when Eden's photo flashed on the screen.  I miss her so much and my heart ache for her.  We took the girls with us and I do not think we will do that again until they are older.  Both kept asking when we would see Eden and get to bring her home.  They did however have the opportunity to decorate a paper balloon for Eden and at the end of the program all of the siblings in the audience brought their balloons to the front where they will be put in a time capsule.  Yet another emotional moment to see all of the children who have lost a brother or sister.

It's amazing how life moves on and there are days when I think "did this even happen?"  It's almost like a dream at times.  I wish I could tell everyone I meet about Eden and that there really is another member to our family.  The reality though is that most people will never know our story and over time I will be okay with that.  I have learned that you never know what someone is going through just by looking at them.  When I am asked "how are you?", no matter who asks me, my usual response is "fine, good, or okay."  Strangers might even think, "wow, that lady doesn't have any problems."  The truth is, we never know!  I give generic answers in leu of telling them how I really feel.  Life goes on and I do my day to day routine, but my heartache never goes away.  I think part of moving on is learning how to live with the heartache because I am not sure it ever fully goes away.  The hole in my heart that I felt when Eden died is like a scar.  The pain gets less and less over time until it's almost unnoticeable.  However, the scar is present none the less and will never fade to nothing.

A few parents were asked to give remarks at the memorial and one mother who lost her son at 2 days old said it so well and I quote:
I wish to touch you but I cannot
I wish to look at you but I cannot
I wish to kiss you but I cannot

Now my great yearning for you is that you will be a good angel who cares for us and remembers us.  Four months was so little time to enjoy you, but you gave so much happiness to my soul.  There is no greater pride for our family than having had you.  I will never be able to repay you for having come into my life."

I love you Eden and wish you all the happiness you deserve cradled in our Heavenly Father's arms.

Friday, October 24, 2008

Stinky Face!

Kids say the darndest things.  Need I say more?!?


I have to share a hilarious story which is my life on a daily basis.  My wonderful mother took the girls yesterday to the mall to see the doggies, play and get a treat (Grammy is so fabulous!)  They had to walk through Dillard's on their way out of the mall and that meant passing by all of the make-up counters.  One of the make-up ladies began talking to Emerson about her new stuffed animal (courtesy of Grammy) and she finally said "Happy Halloween!"  Emerson, who is not shy in the least turned right around and replied, "Happy Halloween Stinky Face!"  Needless to say, they lady was a bit shocked and bewildered and all my mom could do was laugh.  Once Grammy gained her composure she explained to the woman that the girls have a book titled "Happy Halloween Stinky Face" and that must explain Emerson's comment.  The mood instantly changed and the make-up lady was laughing uncontrollably and the other workers were laughing as well.

The moral of the story I guess is that you should not buy your children books with unsavory titles!  I LOVE my girls and the things they say.

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Death March

As some of you might remember, Marcus and I went to Grand Canyon at the beginning of May to do some hiking.  Marcus completed the "Death March," which is 50 miles from the south rim to the north rim and back to the south in one day.  I did a shorter hike on that trip.

Well, we were back at the Canyon last weekend, but this time I did the 50 mile Death March with Marcus and seven other of our crazy friends.  This makes three times for me and six for Marcus and I think I have officially retired.  I LOVE to hike, but 50 miles through the Grand Canyon in one day is too much anymore.  Either I am getting older or wiser in my thinking!  As you can see from the photos though, the Canyon really is an AMAZING place and it humbles me every time I am there.  How lucky are we to have one of the seven wonders of the world in our own backyard!!!!!

I am not going to lie, it was hard and my knees and feet are aching because of it with a couple of blisters to boot.  However, my real motivation this trip was that I wanted to do it for Eden.  I hope that she was along in spirit to experience Grand Canyon and every time it got hard and too overwhelming for me to handle I would think of her and the hard things that she fought through.  She never complained so I tried hard not to do so as well.  Yet again, Eden taught me something that can make me a better person.  Marcus as I love doing physical, adventurous things together and this was no different.  I really am blessed with a good man who is so patient and kind to me, even when I am at my worst.  Enjoy the pictures!

The splendor of the Canyon.  This is from the south side looking through to the north.

We saw quite a bit of wildlife on the trail.  What a place to call home!

The sign warns you not to go to the river and back in one day (15 miles round trip).  Obviously, we are not good listeners.

Me and Marcus resting for a moment on the north rim.  We changed into a fresh pair of socks before heading back.  IF you look close, I am holding "piggy," which was Eden's favorite buddy in the hospital.  Marcus carried it in his pack.

Me and Marcus on the bridge over the Colorado River ready for our final 9.5 mile hike out the south side.

Now that is a trail.  The call this section of the Canyon "Devils Corkscrew."

Look very close on the right side of the photo and that white dot is me hiking up.  You go girl!!

God's creations are so beautiful!

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

TIME WARP

DAD HERE - 

I was going thru a box in the attic, I'm the only one in the house who really does any "deep cleaning" - despite what most people think, and I ran across this funnier than heck High School picture of my wife.  This must be around 1968 - or sometime...  NICE HAIR DO!!!!

 Digging a little deeper in the mess from wife's past, I found Keisa's College Graduation picture in 1984.  I know exactly what you're thinking, It certainly took Keisa a loooooong time between High School and College to graduate.  Pshhh, 16 years to go to school... yea, I know they're called doctors!  

Oh, so you think I'm not telling the truth, do you?  I know there are some skeptics out there... but Keisa really is older than me!